Another thing that I want to talk about is the idea that the other guy can be more "dominant" than you are.
The alpha male concept is completely obsolete. The alpha male during cavemen days had the real power - they know where to find for resources like food, and they were physically strong enough to compete and win.
But ask yourself if those power still exist today. Every man can survive on his own if he has the source of income - you probably have an access to food and shelter if you're reading this. You're all set.
Plus, in this modern world it is irrelevant to use the physical strength just to beat people up. It's illegal.
Attacking another person will always end you up defeated because the police always win.
You are LETTING RANDOM GUYS STOP YOU FOR NO REASON! if you are thinking about it.
Pardon my French, but who is HE to say who YOU talk to???
It was annoying - remembering all the girls I missed out on because I was scare about some DUDE. And I get mad knowing that the other guys are dealing with some crap!
You are going to look back on all the things you did and didn't do, when the time comes that you're on your deathbed. How painful it is to say "I haven't approached that girl because I was scared of another guy," or "I could have enjoyed being with so many beautiful women if only I have approached them even if they were TALKING to another guy."
I don't want you to be like that.
So let's look at this on a deeper level. Seeing another guy as more dominant means you don't truly understand dominance.
There's a better focus. Rather than to see yourself NOT dominant when you are comparing who is more dominant between you and the other guy.
To be dominant, you must first THINK like a dominant man. And dominant men don't think about who is dominant. So what do dominant men think about? Whatever it is they are doing or want.
So you see another guy talking to a group of girls. Instead of worrying about whether or not he's more dominant than you, focus on the girls.
It's proven to be a waste of time if I have to acknowledge other guys. Out of 10 women, 9 of them doesn't even know the guy - they just meet him.
Or if they do, maybe ONE of the girls know him, and barely the rest know him.
It's seldom for women to go out with a guy they are dating - normally they will bring a guy that is more of a protector/friend because a guy like that is more valuable when they go out on the town.
And also, if that guy IS with one of the girls, that means he's NOT with the other girls - they are fair game.
When you are concerned with who's the alpha male, you are by definition NOT the alpha male. In fact, it's questionable whether alpha males truly exist in the modern world.
Avoid some assumption, just get your focus in a USEFUL place, and don't allow some random dude to stop you from enjoying YOUR LIFE!
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Vin has something very interesting to say about VH1's Pick Up Artist Exposed show.
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