Just when I know how to escalate and get good with women quickly, I think of those women I slept with but couldn't keep around.
And that is a bit sad.
There are lots of women that has the potential to become a great girlfriend.
But I had my head higher than my ass.
...maybe that's a little harsh.
But either way it comes down to TWO distinct problems:
First, I was trying to prove something to myself. I was still a recovering nerd. And I've never fully recovered. But I've stopped trying to recover. And that's what's made me move past this "proving myself" thing.
I just accepted who I am.
Yes, I like video games and comic books.
But...
Do you think girls have cooler interests?
Is Myspace, shopping and getting drunk any cooler than what I'm into?
It's all have connection.
Self-acceptance is what really matters.
If you don't accept yourself, women won't accept you also.
Imagine a woman waiting to be your girlfriend and there you are not liking yourself?
She will HATE your presence and don't want to be around you.
Because you can't really like a woman, if you don't like yourself. And if you do like her, but not yourself, then you look like a total loser. And who wants to date a loser?
Although it sounds easy but self-acceptance is rare. How often do you hear people say, "I don't care what anyone thinks of me!"
Almost NO ONE accepts themselves completely, that's in my experience.
And I am one of them.
How you accept yourself is how women find you attractive, and people likes to be around you.
It may be hard to completely accept yourself. There is an old beliefs creep in and saying you are not enough, that you must be more than yourself now.
The degree to which your game becomes better is if you know the degree to which you stop these thoughts.
Because the real game is about yourself and not doubting about yourself. And the game doesn't end after your opener, after a few dates, after "making love." It never ends that way.
Because it is you.
You are not divided from your game.
The "game" is the degree to which you can express who you really are. Your game IS YOU.
You might be thinking "But I'm insecure, nervous and awkward." I disagree. That's not you.
That is the distorted you.
That's you trying to come out, but your old mental habits and ego stop you in expressing what you really want to express.
Before I get too deep into that, I want to move on to the second reason why I couldn't keep women around after I slept with them.
I'm not conscious about shaping.
And shaping is all about knowing what YOU want. If you don't know what you want, you can't shape. And knowing what you want is really just an extension of self-acceptance.
In fact, it is self-acceptance, applied to others. You encourage women to do to you what you like if you know what you like also.
As you can see, women are very flexible. They have a lot of things that they can expose to a guy. Men usually tell women to be selfish, mean, and act like they are better than the man.
But it's not the woman's fault. She's just doing what she's told. Women are always looking to men to get a sense of reality.
So if you approach and treat a woman like a pedestal, she will act accordingly.
If you approach her and treat her like she's lucky you talked to her, she'll feel that way.
Likewise, after mating, if you treat her like she should stay in your life and nurture your lifestyle, she will do so.
We go into this heavily in our workshops. I've developed lots of ways to shape a woman to be EXACTLY the kind of woman I want in my life.
And women are different from each other. For example, I may want another woman to be a sugar mama! I may want one woman to be just a partner in bed. I may want another one to be a girlfriend. It all depends on what we want.
I remember all the crappy, frustrating relationships I used to have.
And how frustrating it was to not see those women again using all the hookups I had as a young pickup artist.
But the moment I started to accept myself and finding out what I really wanted, it all came together.
The Attraction Code is a about figuring out who you are, accepting and cultivating your character, and then applying that to the women you want to meet, date, and sleep with.
If you are struggling with self acceptance and letting the real YOU shine through The Attraction Code is a MUST HAVE.
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