really started to get good, and could escalate with any woman very quickly, I think about all the women I slept with but couldn't keep around.
And that is quite depressing.
So many women had the potential to be great girlfriends.
But I had my brain up my butt.
...maybe that's a little harsh.
But this comes down from TWO distinct problems:
First, I was working hard to prove something to myself. I was still a recovering nerd but I've never fully recovered. And I've stopped trying to recover. And that's what's made me move past this "proving myself" thing.
I've accepted who I am.
Sure, I like video games and comic books.
But...
Do you think girls have cooler interests?
Is getting drunk, Myspace and shopping is cooler than what I'm into?
It's all relative.
What it really comes down to is self-acceptance.
A girl won't accept you if you don't accept yourself first.
Can you picture out a woman wanting to be your girlfriend and you don't like yourself?
She will HATE your company and not want to be around you.
Because you can't really like a woman, if you don't like yourself. And if you do like her, but not yourself, then you look like a total loser. And who do you think wants to date a loser?
Although it sounds easy, self-acceptance is extremely rare. How often do you hear people say, "I don't care what anyone thinks of me!"
Almost NO ONE accepts themselves completely, that's in my experience.
And I'm no exception.
How you accept yourself is how women find you attractive, and people likes to be around you.
It can be really hard to accept yourself completely. The creep in old beliefs telling you, you are not enough, that you must be more than you are now.
The degree to which your game becomes better is if you know the degree to which you stop these thoughts.
Because being yourself and not doubting yourself is the game. And game doesn't stop after your opener, after making love, after a few dates. It never stops.
Because that's you.
You are not divided from your game.
Your game IS YOU. This game is the degree to which you can demonstrates who you are.
Maybe you think "But I'm nervous and insecure and awkward." I don't agree. That's not you.
That is the vague you.
That is you trying to come out, but your ego, your old mental habits stop you from expressing what you really want to express.
Before I proceed deeper, I want first to go to the second reason why I couldn't keep girls around after sleeping with them.
I am not aware of shaping.
Shaping is all about knowing what YOU want. You can't shape if you don't know what you want. The extension of self-acceptance is knowing what you want.
In fact, what applied to others is self-acceptance. You know what you like, and you encourage girls to be that for you.
As you know, women are very flexible. They have many sides that they can reveal to a man. Guys usually tell women to be selfish, mean, and act like they are better than a guy.
But it's not really her fault. She's just doing what she's told. Women are always looking to men to get a sense of reality.
So if you approach a woman and treat her like she's on a pedestal, she will act accordingly.
If you approach a woman and treat her like she's lucky that you approached her, she will feel that way.
Likewise, after mating, if you treat her like she should stay in your life and nurture your lifestyle, she will do so.
We go into this heavily in our workshops. I've developed lots of ways to shape a woman to be EXACTLY the kind of woman I want in my life.
And each woman is different. For example, I may want one woman to be just a mating partner. I may want another woman to be a sugar mama! I may want another one to be a girlfriend. It all depends on what you want.
I used to remember all the crappy, frustrating relationships I have.
Also I think all the hookups I had as a young pickup artist, and how frustrating it was not see those women again.
But the moment I started to accept myself and finding out what I really wanted, it all came together.
The Attraction Code is a about figuring out who you are, accepting and cultivating your character, and then applying that to the women you want to meet, date, and sleep with.
If you're struggling with self acceptance and letting the real YOU shine through The Attraction Code is a MUST HAVE.
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