Just when I know how to escalate and get good with women quickly, I think of those women I slept with but couldn't keep around.
And that is quite depressing.
There are lots of women that has the potential to become a great girlfriend.
But I had my head up my ass.
...maybe that's a little harsh.
But this comes down from TWO distinct problems:
First, I was trying to prove something to myself. I was still a recovering nerd. And I've never fully recovered. But I've stopped trying to recover. And that's what's made me move past this "proving myself" thing.
I've accepted who I am.
Sure, I like comic books and video games.
But...
Do you believe girls have cooler interests?
Is getting drunk, Myspace and shopping is cooler than what I'm into?
It's all relative.
What it really comes down to is self-acceptance.
A girl won't accept you if you don't accept yourself first.
Imagine a woman waiting to be your girlfriend and there you are not liking yourself?
She will HATE to be with you and not wanting to be around with you.
Because if you don't like yourself, you can't really like her. And if you do like her, but not yourself, then you look like a total loser. And who wants to date a loser?
It may sound easy, but self-acceptance is hard to do. How many times have you hear these from people "I don't care what anyone thinks of me!"
Almost NO ONE accepts themselves completely, that's in my experience.
And I am one of them.
How you accept yourself is how women find you attractive, and people likes to be around you.
It can be really hard to accept yourself completely. The creep in old beliefs telling you, you are not enough, that you must be more than you are now.
The degree to which your game becomes better is if you know the degree to which you stop these thoughts.
Because game is really about being yourself, not doubting yourself. And game doesn't stop after your opener, after "mating", after a few dates. It never stops.
Because it is you.
You are not separated from your game.
The "game" is the degree to which you can express who you really are. Your game IS YOU.
Maybe you think "But I'm nervous and insecure and awkward." I don't agree. That's not you.
That is the distorted you.
That's you trying to come out, but your old mental habits and ego stop you in expressing what you really want to express.
Before I go deeper to that, I want to skip to the second reason why I couldn't keep women around after I slept with them.
I'm not conscious about shaping.
And shaping is all about knowing what YOU want. If you don't know what you want, you can't shape. And knowing what you want is really just an extension of self-acceptance.
In fact, it is self-acceptance, applied to others. You encourage women to do to you what you like if you know what you like also.
You see, women are very flexible. They have many sides that they can reveal to a man. Men usually implicitly tell women to be selfish, mean, and act like they are better than the man.
But it's not really her fault. She's just doing what she's told. Women are always looking to men to get a sense of reality.
So if you approach and treat a woman like a pedestal, she will act accordingly.
If you approach a woman and treat her like she's lucky that you approached her, she will feel that way.
Also if you treat her like she should stay in your life and nurture your lifestyle after mating with her, she will do so.
We go into this deeper in our workshop. I have developed a lot of ways on how to shape a woman to be EXACTLY the kind of woman I want in my life.
And women are different from each other. For example, I may want another woman to be a sugar mama! I may want one woman to be just a partner in bed. I may want another one to be a girlfriend. It all depends on what we want.
I used to remember all the crappy, frustrating relationships I have.
Also I think all the hookups I had as a young pickup artist, and how frustrating it was not see those women again.
But when I began to accept myself and analyze what I wanted, it all came together.
The Attraction Code is a about figuring out who you are, accepting and cultivating your character, and then applying that to the women you want to meet, date, and sleep with.
If you're struggling with self acceptance and letting the real YOU shine through The Attraction Code is a MUST HAVE.
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