Another thing that I want to talk about is the idea that the other guy can be more "dominant" than you are.
The concept of the alpha male is completely outdated. In the caveman days, the alpha male had real power - he had access to resources like food, and was physically stronger, so he could beat up competitors.
But ask yourself if those powers are relevant today. Every man with a source of income can survive on his own - if you're reading this, you probably have access to food and shelter. You're all set.
Plus, it's illegal to just beat people up. My point is, physical strength is pretty much irrelevant in the modern world.
It is always to your loss if you attack another person because the police always win.
If you think about it, you are LETTING RANDOM GUYS STOP YOU FOR NO REASON!
Pardon my French, but who is HE to say who YOU talk to???
It makes me mad- I recall all the women I missed out on because I was worried about some DUDE. And I get mad knowing that other guys are dealing with same crap!
You are going to look back on all the things you did and didn't do, when the time comes that you're on your deathbed. How painful it is to say "I haven't approached that girl because I was scared of another guy," or "I could have enjoyed being with so many beautiful women if only I have approached them even if they were TALKING to another guy."
I don't want to happen that to you.
So let's understand it deeply. Seeing the other guy as more dominant means you don't really understand dominance.
You see, if you're concerned with who is more dominant you instantly make yourself NOT dominant. There's a better focus.
To be dominant, you must first THINK like a dominant man. And dominant men don't think about who is dominant. So what do dominant men think about? Whatever it is they are doing or want.
You see a group of girls talking to another guy. Instead of being concerned with who is more dominant between the two of you, just stay focus on the girls.
I rarely even acknowledge other guys, because too often it's proven to be a waste of time. 9 times out of 10 the girls don't even know the guy - they just met him.
Or if they do, maybe ONE of the girls know him, and barely the rest know him.
It's seldom for women to go out with a guy they are dating - normally they will bring a guy that is more of a protector/friend because a guy like that is more valuable when they go out on the town.
Besides, if he IS with one of the girls, that means he's NOT with the other girls - they are fair game.
You are NOT the alpha male by definition, if you are concerned with who's the alpha male is. In fact, in this modern world it's questionable whether alpha males truly exist .
Have your focus in a USEFUL place and don't assume anything. And don't let some random guy prevent you from enjoying YOUR LIFE!
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Mystery's The Pick up Artist Season Two is coming on VH1. Mystery appears in Neil Strauss the Game.
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