Just when I know how to escalate and get good with women quickly, I think of those women I slept with but couldn't keep around.
And it's quite sad.
So many women had the potential to be great girlfriends.
But I had my brain up my butt.
...maybe that's a little rude.
But this comes down from TWO distinct problems:
First, I was trying to prove something to myself. I was still a recovering nerd. And I've never fully recovered. But I've stopped trying to recover. And that's what's made me move past this "proving myself" thing.
I've accepted who I am.
Sure, I like comic books and video games.
But...
Do you think girls have cooler interests?
Is getting drunk, Myspace and shopping is cooler than what I'm into?
It's all relative.
What it really comes down to is self-acceptance.
A girl won't accept you if you don't accept yourself first.
Can you picture out a woman wanting to be your girlfriend and you don't like yourself?
She will HATE your company and not want to be around you.
Because you can't really like a woman, if you don't like yourself. And if you do like her, but not yourself, then you look like a total loser. And who do you think wants to date a loser?
It may sound easy, but self-acceptance is hard to do. How many times have you hear these from people "I don't care what anyone thinks of me!"
Almost NO ONE accepts themselves completely, that's in my experience.
And I'm no exception.
The degree to which you accept yourself is the degree to which women find you attractive, and people want to be around you.
It can be really hard to accept yourself completely. The creep in old beliefs telling you, you are not enough, that you must be more than you are now.
The degree to which your game becomes better is if you know the degree to which you stop these thoughts.
Because game is really about being yourself, not doubting yourself. And game doesn't stop after your opener, after "mating", after a few dates. It never stops.
Because that's you.
You are not divided from your game.
Your game IS YOU. This game is the degree to which you can demonstrates who you are.
Maybe you think "But I'm nervous and insecure and awkward." I don't agree. That's not you.
That is the indistinct you.
That is you trying to come out, but the one that stop you from expressing what you really want to express is your ego and your old mental habits.
Before I go deeper to that, I want to skip to the second reason why I couldn't keep women around after I slept with them.
I wasn't aware of shaping.
Knowing what you want is really just an extension of self-acceptance. And shaping is all about knowing what YOU want. If you don't know what you want, you can't shape.
In fact, it's self-acceptance, applied to others. You know what you like, and you encourage women to be that for you.
As you can see, women are very flexible. They have a lot of things that they can expose to a guy. Men usually tell women to be selfish, mean, and act like they are better than the man.
But it's not the woman's fault. She's just doing what she's told. Women are always looking to men to get a sense of reality.
So if you come to a woman and treat her like she's on a pedestal, she will act accordingly.
If you approach her and treat her like she's lucky you talked to her, she'll feel that way.
Also if you treat her like she should stay in your life and nurture your lifestyle after mating with her, she will do so.
This was tackled deeper in our workshop. I've developed a lot of things to shape a woman to be EXACTLY the kind of woman I want in my life.
And each woman is different. For example, I may want one woman to be just a mating partner. I may want another woman to be a sugar mama! I may want another one to be a girlfriend. It all depends on what you want.
I think of all the crappy, frustrating relationships I used to have.
I remember all the hookups I had as a young pickup artist, and how frustrating it was to not see those women again.
But once I began to accept myself and figure out what I wanted, it all came together.
The Attraction Code is all about figuring out who you are, accepting and cultivating your character, and then applying that to the women you want to meet, sleep with, and date.
If you're struggling with self acceptance and letting the real YOU shine through The Attraction Code is a MUST HAVE.
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