Dating can be your best pal.
...OR your big enemy.
Often, a guy can feel like a slave to his biological need to procreate.
Then there's that common phrase, "He thinks with his... You know."
Well it can be hard to NOT think that way if you aren't physically satisfied.
But men are also goal oriented.
We need to achieve things and influence the world in a good way. And we are doers of it.
I've personally faced one of the biggest challenges and it is balancing the two - my carnal obsession and achieving my goals.
Dating can take a lot of time when you are single. Women will suck away at your time if you don't know what you're doing.
Before you notice it, you are spending hours feeding the birds and cuddling in the park... now nothing wrong with spending a quality time with your girlfriend, AS LONG AS IT DON'T interferes YOUR GOALS IN LIFE.
Goals take time, and so do women.
In fact, it's a woman's NATURE to get the man's time - it's her way of getting you to invest in her. If she gets pregnant there's a lesser chance of you leaving her (this comes from our caveman days, so to speak).
Managing your time with women can get really tricky. You see, most guys WANT to give women their time. Men are by nature the "givers." They like to please women, protect them, and give them good feelings.
There is also a urges in men that completely take over your thoughts.
Both of these things can get in the way of you making the most of your life, your time.
I want you take a moment and ask this to yourself, "WHAT DO I REALLY WANT TO GIVE TO WOMEN?"
Now I'm willing to bet it wasn't "money," or "lots of my free time," or "control over my life."
It was probably something like "relaxation, excitement, feeling of safety, good feelings, sexual pleasure, make her smile or feel good about herself, etc."
I think men have problems with how they use their time with women in two ways.
First, they think that the gifts they REALLY want to give aren't that valuable, so they overcompensate with other stuff - like spending too much time or money on a woman.
Second, men think that they are "getting" something valuable when a girl spends time with them.
Society brainwashes men to believe that women are a prize to claim, and that there's some inherent value in a pretty face.
It's a LIE!
The best thing is to see women for what they are, nothing more, nothing less. They are cute, sometimes fun, but ultimately not that important, AND THEY CAN'T COMPLETE YOUR LIFE!
Now it is really hard to break out of this mental prison of feeling inferior to women.
Your mental habits are subtle and hard to notice because you've been doing them for years.
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